The Golden Rule

I recently came across this image on Facebook.

Yes. It was posted with the intention that the women should be compared to each other (we do it whether we like to or not). Most likely assuming that the fuller, and more muscular woman on the left is 'more attractive'. Because I enjoy fitness and the more muscular look, I would agree with that. However, this is not about which woman is 'better looking'. 

This is about a comment  that was left on the image that REALLY bothered me.

'Sorry, but neither one looks natural. Both represent very self absorbed women'

Miss, I beg to differ. These images simply portray women and a piece of their lifestyle. You do not know these women. Either or both of them could be the most down-to-earth and friendly people. Being a woman, I am 100% positive that each of these women carry their own insecurities with them everywhere they go.

The fit girl is not even posing for the photograph. Someone admired her, and chose to snap a shot. She is at a competition, simply enjoying an activity that she is probably passionate about.

The model, I'm sure, faces some pretty heavy pressure being in a career that targets young girls and is notorious for housing girls with eating disorders. She probably does not enjoy it. She probably worries about being ready for a shoot or a show constantly. How harsh to be one to judge her when she probably spends enough time judging herself. 

Now, I realize this is a bit of a rant, but I relate to this. For my whole life I have been insecure about myself. I am not pretty enough. I am not thin enough. I have ugly stretch marks. My toes are weird. I am not strong enough. I have these irrational thoughts sometimes. And because I am critical of myself, I am concerned with how I look. This does not make me self-absorbed. It makes me HUMAN. 

I believe that it is not our place to judge the character of any person without knowing them personally. I am sure each of the women in the image are beautiful in their own ways. Remember that you have people watching you every day. Would you like to know that they are making an unsupported judgement of your character? I would not.

Treat others as you would like to be treated. It's a rule. Don't forget it, be kind. <3